The Zen Of Relationships

Relationships, between friends, family, lovers, colleagues or competition have a way of evolving. Most people value frequency and quantity in this evolution, and lament a relationship if it is kept idle for a length of time. Most people also value investments made in their relationships, whether by expectation, attention, love or contract (sometimes all of the above). They would also get angry if their investment into the relationship doesn't pan out the way they thought.

It's not really a stable way of looking at it. The thing you can be sure about, is that

• the longer you're around, the more people you meet who compete for your attention
• the more likely you will pick up stuff to worry about, like a house, career, car, insurance...
• you're going to try to fit more and more relationships in the same 24-hour day

I'm not in favour of dismissing relationships as a matter of fact, simply because of a simple human condition, that you can't do two things at once, and that you have to prioritize.

I'd rather just value relationships at the point in time that they existed, and not worry about "long-distance", or "long time ago". It's not like I'll treat everyone as if I've seen them just yesterday, but I'm sure to treat it with respect.